Happy Friday! Tomorrow Jordan and I are celebrating our second anniversary of dating. A lot has changed since the days I would go out dancing with my friends sipping on vodka crans and making each of them promise to tell me if they noticed any cute boys with glasses.
I’ve had a few serious relationships in my lifetime and I like to think I learned quite a bit from each one. Love teaches us a lot about ourselves, about what we want and quite often about what we don’t want. Sometimes Jordan and I joke that we wish we would have found each other sooner, but in reality I think we both needed the experiences we had for personal growth and for the proper mindset to appreciate one another. I don’t think everyone needs to date a lot of people to be sure or certain but I think I did and I’m grateful I met so many different people along the way because each date (bad or good, long term or short lived) helped pave the path that led me to Jordan.
Two years isn’t very long and in many ways the past two years have gone by in the blink of an eye. It seems like we were just packing our bags and heading on the road trip that laid the foundation for our relationship. Jordan still gives me butterflies. I still get overly excited when he gets home from work each day and I still get sad if we go a day without talking for whatever reason. Our daily lives have adjusted to fit one another naturally but our love is still fairly fresh and new.
I thought about making a list of all the reasons I love Jordan but I’ll save that just for him. Instead I want to remind myself and anyone else in a serious relationship not to take a single moment for granted, not to lose that sense of wonder for your partner and to make it a priority every day to express appreciation for one another . Love takes work and love is a choice. I know I slip up and have my bratty days, we all do. Even the relationships that come naturally and don’t have any “foundational problems” need to be nurtured and cultivated.
Over the past two years I’ve really matured in the way I define love. For so long I subconciously fell for people just because they made me feel pretty or important or smart. I’ve come to realize though that love isn’t about the way someone makes you feel, it isn’t about finding someone just so they can validate your existence or alleviate your insecurities or shortcomings. It’s likely that the person you love will compliment you and will make you feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside but that isn’t what long lasting love is about. Love is about seeing another human in their raw, unedited form and choosing to love them for what they are about irrespective of yourself. It’s about compromising and sacrificing while still maintaining an individual identity and a strong sense of conviction. Mostly I’ve determined love is about being best friends.
When you’re truly best friends you can laugh with one another, you support each other unconditionally, you go out of your way to be kind, and you are confident enough with your relationship that you can talk about anything even the tough stuff. I’ve known for a long time that love isn’t always glittery but Jordan has taught me just how glittery love can be. I created The Fairy Princess Diaries as a space to document the magic & enchantment of everyday life and with Jordan as my bestie life has become even more enchanting.
This weekend we aren’t doing anything too glamourous or crazy to celebrate. I’m hoping to stay in together on a Saturday night and I know he’s probably hoping to go out (introvert and extrovert perpetual dilemma), ha! As much as I love those celebratory occasions complete with ball gowns and champagne the moments that mean the most to me are usually just the two of us dancing in the kitchen, or talking and eating raspberries in bed. I hope to have a lot more of those memories (: