Good Morning and happy Monday everyone who has bothered to show up to this little space of mine. I’m sitting here sipping on Savannah’s latte because I accidentally grabbed the wrong drink at Starbucks and didn’t notice until I made it home. Sadly, I had ordered a pumpkin spice latte and Savannah had ordered a plain soy latte so I don’t know whose more sad about this situation-me or Savannah?
I regret taking Savannah’s latte not because I feel too bad, but because I really would have rather started my morning with a sweet burst of pumpkin. Yet, most of the “mistakes” I’ve made in life though cringe worthy or even painful at the time have become lessons and reminders as time has passed. Rather than making a list of regrets today (and starting my Monday off on a rather sour note) I thought I’d do just the opposite and share some of the painful, embarrassing, sometimes silly decisions and life choices I don’t regret.
10 Decisions I Don’t Regret:
1. Dying my hair BURGUNDY WITH BLONDE streaks, I repeat BURGUNDY WITH BLONDE STREAKS during a very awkward stage of my life (ie. 7th grade). Sure there may have been burgundy splotches in the blonde highlights and I may have looked like a bad attempt at punk rock but it built character and undoubtedly showcased who my real friends were.
2. Dating not just one guy who was wrong for me but a whole slew of them. Sometimes you have to kiss a frog (or two, or three) to find out what it is you’re really looking for and even who you are without a prince or a frog!
3. Majoring in History, sure it’s pretty much a pointless degree with fewer job prospects than you can get with an English major but I genuinely liked reading old dusty textbooks about Galileo and the Reformation. Pursuing an intellectual interest just because it intrigues you isn’t practical but if you can’t do it in college when can you?
4. Any and all questionable fashion choices-like the stretch flood jeans I’m wearing in this post. Do they suit my body type? Negotiable. Did I style them correctly? Not really. Do they sorta look like I’m striving to be the chill L.A. cool girl who quits her job and travels around Asia on the solo staying at hostels and riding elephants? I think so. Am I even sorta kinda that girl? That’s a hard no. The point is fashion should be fun, you’re going to have some hits and you’re going to have some misses but don’t be afraid to express yourself girl!
5. Exploring the job market instead of settling into a career path after undergrad. Some people graduate college and transition straight into an entry level position in their desired field (I applaud those people) but some people still don’t know what it is they want to do, I fell into the latter category. At 22 I still felt pulled in 20 different directions. I was unsure if I wanted to work in fashion or advertising or academia or law. So, I spent 3 years at a handful of jobs testing and failing and figuring it out. There were probably 50 times I cried out of sheer frustration and wished an almighty being would just TELL me who I was and what I should be. But alas, I had to stumble and figure it out for myself. Now that I am pursuing a field and a career that feels right for me, the struggle it took to get here makes it all the more satisfying.
6. Buying the dress first and finding the occasion later. Trust me girl, if you have the sparkly mini dress that makes your curves look fantastic you’ll find a reason to wear it!
7. Eating an entire pint of ice cream in bed on a regular basis. What can I say? I just don’t regret it!
8. Forgiving friends and family members who hurt me in a way I never thought I could recover from. We all have people in our lives who have hurt us at some point. It is always those closest to us that wield the power to hurt us the most. I’ve had moments when I have vowed to end a friendship, to tell off a family member or to never return the text messages of a mean girl I went to high school with, but in the end I give in. I used to think I was a doormat for forgiving people and letting go of grudges but I’ve recognized the power in forgiveness and grace. By forgiving those who have hurt me, even if I set new boundaries for the relationship, I have taken back the power those relationships held over me. It’s a wonderful and liberating feeling!
9. Never quite finding my “Instagram Aesthetic” or my “Blogging Niche”. Some people are meant to have perfectly curated Instagram feeds in bright white or muted shades of gray and green, other people are meant to just wing it and blog about everything from Tinder dates to politics. That’s okay! Be you whether you is fabulous at branding yourself or more of a spur of the moment girl.
10. Writing that email or text or letter that TOTALLY put my heart on the line only to be rejected and to have my soul crushed. Whether it’s addressed to a crush, an application for a job or an attempt to rekindle a friendship-you never know what could happen if you put yourself out there! It’s better to try and ultimately face rejection than to always wonder “what if”?
What fun is life without a dose of crippling regret that leaves you tossing and turning at night? Kidding, kidding, but I am human and therefore “regret” a thing or two.
***Bonus: 3 Things I DO Regret:
1.Hurting the People I Love
2. Not Studying Abroad during College
3. Letting another person Affect my Education
Do you tend to hold onto regret or do you learn from it? Do regrets from the past help motivate the way you live today? I find the idea of regret interesting and always love reading your thoughts (:
All Photo Credit goes to Madeleine Wilson!