Since I started my blogging journey in January 2013 I’ve been amazed by how valuable a resource for sharing my stories and experiences has become. I don’t usually spout out the details of every weekend or even share all of my favorite stories and memories. I sometimes take for granted the ability to show up in this space and pour out my heart. Now that I’ve been blogging for almost four years (woah) I tend to forget that there was a time I didn’t have this space or the connections I’ve made in the virtual world.
When you really think about it, it’s quite incredible that we even have the privilege to share our stories. This space has provided me a voice and through that voice counsel on many of the most difficult issues I’ve faced over the past four years. Even when I blog less frequently or when my posts are more fashion based or more dating based or more wellness based…I could never imagine giving up blogging. At one point all of my thoughts and musings and ideas and feelings big and small could only find a home in a lonely journal. While I still practice and appreciate journaling, there is something so mighty about putting your thoughts out there to share with others. By sharing my life “epiphanies” and realizations as they come to me I’ve abandoned that lonely feeling that often comes with the deeper certainties and uncertainties of life. Writing has been the most unifying hobby as it has allowed me to realize perhaps my greatest “epiphany” of all- my feelings, wishes, insecurities, hopes and desires are not lonely, crazy free floating chaos, my longings are universal and my shortcomings mirrored.
Perhaps since graduating college blogging has presented me with the most impactful gift! As I’ve struggled and floundered to mature and navigate the world of adulthood (without loosing the doe eyes exuberance for life) it’s been so comforting to share my experiences breaking up, crying over my apartment going into foreclosure, watching new love blossom and exploring new interests. Sometimes I look back on my blog posts from 2013 and 2014 and I can hardly remember feeling the way I felt when I wrote those posts…but then I read and it’s like I’m magically transformed into that headspace and in a way, rereading my thoughts from the past gives me so much insight into the NOW. I don’t know if I’m accurately articulating the blog phenomena but it’s freaking incredible!
Using a blog as a diary isn’t for everyone, I realize that. Though I have been open about my past abusive relationship, struggles with my family and essentially every personal problem that comes my way…even I sometimes get nervous about the extent to which I wear my heart on my sleeve. There are weeks or months that I don’t post anything too raw or deep, perhaps because I don’t have anything to write or perhaps because I am dealing with those emotions in some other way but I still know anyone could show up and read all of my diary like entires from the past. Being laid out so raw on such an easily accessible forum is sometimes terrifying but something inside of me (no matter how misguided or delusional) feels compelled to lay myself out there. Not everyone has to talk so openly about their love life or shortcomings or whatever but I do think there is value in sharing your story.
My blogging journey hasn’t just been about me, it’s been just as much about all of the blogs I read and all of the friends who comment here and share their stories. I am so attracted to blogs that allow me to see into the daily thoughts and life of another. Blogging is so intimate in the sense that you share in a way you might not even share with your best friend (not that your relationship with your best friend isn’t valuable in another way). I can’t help but feel this rush of inspiration and energy when I read another’s post that connects to me on some level other than just “oh we like the same shoes”. Don’t get me wrong I love shoes and fully intend to blog about them forever but it’s the peering into someone’s brain that really keeps me interested.
Yesterday my good blog friend at Seersucker Sass shared a post about sharing posts of substance and it really reminded me why blogging is so meaningful to me. I know most of the wonderful people who read here already blog (at least I think so) but I want to encourage anyone reading who doesn’t to find a way to share their own story. It doesn’t have to be blogging or involved with social media at all, but please, your insights and opinions and the diverse way you interpret the world is SO valuable (I feel not for everybody it is for somebody). Share your story because it’s worth it.