Happy Friday gorgeous girls! This weekend is all about celebrating the important women in our lives, I feel so lucky that I not only have a loving mother but also grandmas and aunts that have played significant roles in my upbringing. My Mom and I haven’t always had an easy relationship, in fact if I am being honest my relationship with my Mom has been one of the most challenging relationships of my life. Mother-daughter relationships are so special though. I know when I am happy my Mom will celebrate my victories with me, when I am sad my Mom will be there to comfort me and when I am weird or awkward my Mom will accept me nonetheless.
Over the years I have come to appreciate my Mother’s unique style of parenting. All parenting styles are different and I certainly do not believe there is a “right way” to raise children, all parents make mistakes and all parents have successes as well. Looking back some of the most valuable lessons my mom taught me extend past childhood and remind me how to live as an adult too.
Lessons from my Mom
1.Birthdays are to be celebrated all month long, no matter how old you’re turning. I can proudly say I’ve carried my Mom’s love of birthdays into adulthood.
2. There is no excuse for being bratty or entitled, ever!
3. Crying does not make you weak, it isn’t wrong to display emotions. I consider myself a crier and I’m not at all ashamed.
4. Natural beauty is the best beauty. My mom has never worn a lot of makeup but is one of the most naturally beautiful women I’ve ever seen. She focuses on enhancing her natural features instead of caking on highlighter and contouring her face into something it isn’t. Experimenting with makeup is fun but I always feel best when I embrace my Mom’s low key makeup style.
5. A hot bath is the best cure for stress. I inherited my mom’s love of a nightly bubble bath and a good book to unwind and shake off the stress of the day. Now you’ll catch me in the bath almost as often as the shower. I love slathering on a face mask, soaking in the hot water and reading a book or magazine.
6. Life is about balance-eating healthy most of the time but splurging on Cinnamon Toast crunch when you really want it, avoiding fast food like the plague but grabbing a hot fudge sundae after a bad day. I’ve never been a regimented eater but naturally stray away from candy, soda and chips (although I am a sucker for ice cream).
7. Breakups aren’t the worst thing in the world even if they feel like they are. Take a mental health day when you need it! Growing up I was so thankful my Mom was empathetic toward my teenage heartbreak, whenever I went through a breakup (only 2-3 times) my Mom let me miss school for a day if I wanted to. Usually I attempted to distract myself with window shopping at the mall and ended up crying and eating ice cream at home but the mental health days were greatly appreciated.
8. Great boots are always worth the splurge. They will quickly pay off for themselves…or maybe I taught my Mom this, I can’t be sure (;
9. Every important relationship takes a significant amount of work whether it is with a significant other, a family member or even yourself. Investing in relationships isn’t always easy and won’t always be fun, but building strong relationships is worth the effort.
10. Always say “I love you”. Before boarding a flight, hanging up the phone, going to sleep, or hopping in the car to drive home, my Mom emphasized the importance of saying “I love you”. My Mom was always open with her affection and emotions and I believe I can attribute a large portion of my willingness to be emotionally vulnerable and to show others I care to her teachings.
Are you celebrating Mother’s Day with an important woman in your life? What is the most important lesson you learned from a female role model?