I swear I’ve fallen down the rabbit hole and into wedding land (and I’m not even a bride)! This weekend I attended my soon to be step sister’s wedding in Bellingham. The daytime wedding was so sweet! Despite fighting tulip festival traffic for hours to make it in time, Jordan and I really enjoyed the festivities and family time on Saturday.
Wedding season has officially started! I love seeing happy brides glow in their wedding dresses, working in the industry I wanted to share a bit of knowledge I’ve learned about dress shopping along the way.
1.Bring along your biggest Cheerleaders! Leave that friend that has always been a little negative or the cousin who has always been jealous of your mile long supermodel legs at home. While it’s great to have a friend or two with you, it’s not at all fun to have an overbearing friend who projects their desires or negativity onto you. Bring a friend that is honest (and will tell you if a certain dress is crazy) but still positive!
2. Don’t dress shop until you’re emotionally and financially prepared to make a purchase. Many dress shops will offer decisive bride discounts or may have a sample or one of a kind dress for sale. Definitely don’t feel pressured to purchase a dress if it isn’t the one, but if you do find a dress you love be ready to place a deposit. Not only do dresses take up to 6 months to create but dresses can come and go over the course of a couple weeks, you wouldn’t want to miss your dream dress by overanalyzing.
3. Don’t let the Groom’s opinion be the “Tell All”. Chances are your fiancé will think you look stunning no matter what you wear. While you may want to keep in mind your fiancé’s preferences (he prefers crepe over lace or fitted over ball gown) it is your dress! You’re the one who has been dreaming about your wedding dress since you played Barbies when you were five, and most guys (even stylish ones) don’t have much of an idea of what dresses are out there. Your groom already adores you, choose what you love and feel confident in and he will be swooning on your wedding day. I promise!
4. Stress free is the way to be! If you let wedding planning consume your life it can be overwhelming, my motto is that a giant celebration of your love should be fun! If at any point the wedding planning process stops being fun take a step back and reevaluate the way you’re doing things. Are you straining your budget? Being too much of a perfectionist? Trying to please your rebellious non traditional sister and your uptight lace loving Grandmother? Look to alleviate unnecessary stressors by reminding yourself that this day is YOUR day. The same can be said for your dress. There’s a difference between choosing a dress your sister thinks you look good in versus having to choose your sister’s favorite dress. Likewise, just because Grandma loves high collars and lace doesn’t mean you need to pick the dress that makes her heart skip a beat, just something that doesn’t offend her! Repeat it to yourself each morning if you need to, “This is my day and I cannot please everyone, I need to please me!”. Now take a deep breath and exhale, your wedding is going to be amazing!
5. At the end of the day your dress is just that a dress. It might be the most expensive dress you’ve ever purchased, it may be a future family heirloom, it is certain to be documented in photos and on your Facebook feed but it isn’t telling of our love or your future, it’s a dress. Pick a dress that makes you happy and try not to read too much thought into its timelessness. Understandably everyone wants their dress to feel forever stylisy (hello Mariah Carey’s 80s wedding gown), but chances are even the seemingly traditional dresses will feel dated at some point. If you choose a dress you feel confident and beautiful in, you will always look back and smile even if the sweetheart neckline or plunging back goes out of style. Love and happiness never go out of style!
You can see my first set of wedding dress wisdom on my post here. Do you have wedding dress shopping advice? I would love to read your comments! Do you have a dream wedding dress? Or if you’ve been married, what did you love about your gown?