A dynamic personality has recently become of great importance to me. We’re all capable of having dynamic personalities and deep character, however it is consistently focusing on growth and development that allows us to achieve this level of interest. We all need days to be boring. Watching Gilmore Girls on Netflix and eating pizza in bed is a fantastic way to veg out, but ensuring my hobbies include more than “Netflix and chill” or “Macaroons and Coffee” is crucial. While I despise the term “basic”, I can relate to the feeling of glorifying “vanilla”. Vanilla is delicious, vanilla ice cream with hot fudge is so my jam, but I don’t want to be vanilla even if vanilla is one of the ingredients on the recipe card that makes up me.
Have I lost you yet? Do I sound totally insane? Social media can serve as a wonderful example. On Instagram, if I post a flat lay of a box of macaroons on a white fluffy rug next to a cute mug of coffee and the latest issue of Glamour it’s bound to get a lot of likes. We can all bond over loving macaroons and coffee and fashion magazines and honestly that is wonderful. There is nothing wrong with adoring scrumptious sweets or indulging in celebrity gossip and fashion tips. Yet, I think we are selling ourselves short if we represent ourselves as nothing more than consumers of photogenic treats and purveyors of pretty fresh flowers and well photographed trinkets. Social media makes it easy to overemphasize the rather vanilla portions of our personalities.
Don’t get me wrong, when you post a cute photo of your fresh flowers I’m probably going to “like” it. However, for the sake of authenticity and agency I want to be more than fresh flowers and pretty cookies. I want to not just portray the unique aspects of who I am but also work on cultivating them. This concept extends beyond blogging and social media.
Sometimes I find it so easy to fall into the trap of only being vanilla. I spend my time watching The Bachelor, gossiping about some celebrity’s latest exploits and snapping photos of my new “It” shoes next to my Starbs. It’s not bad to be vanilla but you have to add something more to the mix. You have to be you among the portions of you that embrace vanilla or else vanilla is just boring.
Not everyone is comfortable sharing as much of their soul with the internet as I am, it is perfectly understandable to put up a few filters online. That being said, putting up filters doesn’t mean loosing who you are and what makes you unique and real! Whether that means sharing a bit about the writing class you’re taking, the personal struggles you’re going through or photos from that un-staged vacation to somewhere not particularly instagram worthy. Can we all take a few more risks when it comes to authenticity?
I won’t be leading a crusade to empower the people of social media anytime soon. I love social spaces and the power we’ve been given to connect with like-minded individuals all over the world. Yet, I occasionally crave time away from screens to evaluate and cultivate the aspects of myself that don’t always receive the most interest on social platforms. I encourage you to do the same once in awhile.
In the long run our character isn’t much when it’s built on faux marble backdrops and fluffy white rugs. We ought to be more than experts at mimicking what is trendy. I would much rather be the girl in the room with the most interesting stories to tell and the best insights in conversation than the girl who captured the best photo of her heels at the party.
“Focus on being the most interesting girl in the room rather than the prettiest girl in the room”.
I think we all need a reminder that the pieces of us that make us unique are just as worthy of display as the pieces of us that are popular.
Photographs by Madeline Wilson Photography.