I recently read a friend’s blog post, she mentioned the all encompassing, overwhelming feeling that she was doing exactly what she was supposed to be doing. She felt like she was in the exact spot she should be in life (and I am genuinely happy for her). I can’t begin to imagine what that feels like. Though I’ve felt confident in specific decisions, I’ve never felt like I was doing what I should be doing.
The thing is, I’m really bad at “going with my gut”. I waiver on a decision for a long time, I take all opinions into account, I weigh the pros and cons using lists and venn diagrams. Considering all angles is important but there’s doing your research and then there’s allowing fear (or uncertainty) to paralyze you…I too often fall into the trap of the latter.
Over the past few years I’ve made decisions to help guide me toward my true passions and goals only to give them up for one reason or another. After accepting an internship for Girl’s Life Magazine I backed out after visiting Baltimore and deciding it wasn’t a great fit for me. My senior year of college I changed my major so I could graduate quicker (and hopefully get away from my ex). I enrolled in graduate school (and paid an non refundable deposit) only to realize I couldn’t receive the financial assistance I needed two weeks before the program’s start date. I booked a trip to Paris for Christmas and just cancelled our tickets for medical reasons (another person’s medical reasons, I’m okay!). The moral is life happens. There will always be obstacles and challenges, yet I can’t help but feel like I’ve allowed these obstacles to inhabit my dreams and passions too strongly.
Reading about a peer living life so confident she is in the exact right spot made me wonder, have I prohibited myself from that same feeling of purpose?
My question for you: At what point do you stop seeking the approval of others and just pave your own path? How do you make a well informed decision without waiting too long and allowing an opportunity to pass you by? Is everyone capable of feeling like they are on the right path? Or are some of us just bound to overanalyze and never feel so certain?
Today’s post isn’t meant to be inspiring…I guess I’m just thinking on paper so to speak! I’m wondering if any of you have found any answers I’ve missed.
On a lighter note, check out my adorable sweater from SheIn. This long sleeve, fitted v-neck lace up SheIn sweater is super trendy for this season. I really like the soft blue undertone of the gray and thought it looked super feminine with a blush a-line skirt. Though it looks bright and cheerful in my pictures it is definitely sweater weather in Calistoga. I’ve been freezing, I’m so happy I packed a few warmer fall pieces for my trip. SheIn has so many affordable sweaters this season. I try to save on trendy pieces that will only be in style for a few seasons and splurge on timeless pieces. A few of my favorite sweaters include this shaggy cardigan, this hollow bow back sweater and this on-trend lace up sweater.
*Disclaimer: I received this sweater as a gift from SheIn in exchange for posting. All comments and reviews are completely truthful and 100% authentic. I pinky swear!