If you could listen in as your friends, classmates, co-workers and acquaintances described you what do you think they would say? Would they call you “outgoing”, “kind”, “silly”, “forgetful”? Would they emphasize your punctuality or your disregard for the the no cell phone policy? Which words would you like to describe you and how can you work towards manifesting and personifying that image today?
You’ve probably heard or read the popular Diane Von Furstenberg quote “I didn’t know what I wanted to do, but I always knew the woman I wanted to become”. When I first stumbled across the popular saying (probably via Pinterest) it resonated with me on some level. I could relate to this idea that I wasn’t directionless (in fact I was everything but) yet I had no idea about the micro details that encompassed being who I wanted to be. I used to stress that I knew I wanted to write but didn’t know in what capacity. It worried me that I never had a specific “dream job” but rather attributes and skills I wanted to develop and utilize. The same could be stressed across an array of arenas. I knew how I wanted to feel in a relationship but not what my dream guy looked like or did for fun. I knew the sort of lifestyle that would fulfill me but not necessarily where I wanted to live specifically or if I wanted a family or not. I had this overarching sense of the person I wanted to be but the little details seemed hazy.
This week I compiled a list of 25 qualities I hope to embody. The list isn’t all encompassing in the sense that I certainly value traits not listed however in general my list represents the woman I’ve always hoped (and worked toward) becoming. I’m still not quite there (nor will I ever be completely) but I think recognizing the traits I value and wish to further enhance/develop is impactful. When all else fails can’t I ask myself “What can I do today to be more Altruistic? Or Cultured? Or Intelligent?”
25 Characteristics I’m Striving For:
Of course I am more successful at embodying some of these traits and less successful at others. As Madeleine L’Engle remarked “A Self is not something static, tied up in a pretty parcel and handed to the child, finished and complete. A Self is always becoming“.
I suggest writing down 25 traits you aspire towards as well. It’s a useful exercise to reflect on the values you place on yourself as well as a vision to work toward constantly. If 25 traits seems too daunting I think listing your top 10 would be inspiring too, although once I started brainstorming I found coming up with 25 wasn’t too difficult after all.
Tell me a few words that describe the woman you want to become?