When you peer deep into your own soul do you think you’re a “good person”? Are you happy with who you are? I think most of us believe we are kind even if we aren’t as we justify our actions by the means necessary to fit into our mold of what is right and what is wrong. Though I disappoint myself frequently I would describe myself as someone who is inherently loving and kind though I don’t think we can ever truly know how closely our perceptions of ourselves align with that of others.
There are people I encounter that shake the doe eyed exuberant “see the best in people philosophy” I attempt to allow to govern my world. We are all “broken” in some way or another, we are all victims in some way shape or form. Some of the tragedy that good people are forced to endure is truly heartbreaking. No one deserves to feel alone in the world or unloved or without support. Loneliness and helplessness are so incredibly dangerous because their love child is so often desperation. A desperate individual can be so toxic. A desperate individual can and often will manipulate the people who care about him/her often sucking the life and money and energy out of anyone who enables them without noticing all the innocent bystanders who are dragged down by this quicksand lifestyle.
I strive to maintain an empathetic spirit, to understand the perspective of others even when it threatens my own happiness. If we can accept our own flaws and recall the mistakes we have made in the past it makes it easier to let go of the hostility towards volatile people around us. Daily I can remind myself that haters are going to hate, that there will be ghosts lurking in the shadows hoping to tear apart my happiness, that there will always be someone throwing rocks at things that shine. I try not to take this hostility personally because I know at the end of the end of the day it has nothing to do with me. People who allow themselves to remain powerless victims forever will always resent the people who turn from the darkness towards the sunlight and allow happiness and light to illuminate their lives. Right now life feels pretty shiny and I refuse to let another person’s jealousy and dissatisfaction with herself dull my sparkle. I may stumble in the darkness for a moment filled with tears and jealousy in the parking lot of a Play it Again Sports but I refuse fall down that dark grave. Sunshine cannot exist that deep below the surface. We can and should allow ourselves to empathize and to reach out with love and compassion whenever possible but to let a stranger bring us to tears…to let bitterness suffocate the magic out of life, that sort of life draining hatred should be avoided at all costs.
Have you ever let a negative person’s energy bring you down? How did you combat it?
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