A week or so ago I finally broke down and took the Myers Briggs personality test (and then made Gen take it, and then made her try to guess with me which categories everyone we know would fall into, and then made my Gatsby boy take it, and then analyzed him until past midnight). To be honest I’m surprised I didn’t take it sooner with my internal need to analyze myself and personality and what not. My result: INFJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging). Now that I know what all of the letters mean I think I could have guessed my result prior to taking the test, which is why I’ve proclaimed myself Myers Briggs goddess and have taken it into my own hands to crusade across my circle of friends (which is small because you know…I’m an INFJ) and force everyone to find out their result so I can analyze them further. Forewarning to anyone in my path who refuses to comply, if you don’t take the test I will just use deductive reasoning to assign you a personality type myself and analyze you based off of those results. I’m persistent.
The reason I’m so gung-ho about Myers Briggs is the eerie accuracy of my results. I’m pretty introspectively obsessed with myself so I’ve taken a lot of quizzes and personality tests over time (If you’re wondering which character from Scandal I am…Cyrus Beene. If you’re wondering which Gossip Girl character I am…Serena). Since Gen was feeling sick Friday night and headed to bed at roughly 6:00 (my poor baby) I was left to spend the remainder of the night analyzing the own inner workings of my minds hence “INFJ” research. All of the descriptions were pretty spot on but I’ve highlighted the ones that stood out most to me.
An Interest in a few deep relationships over dozens of acquaintances: Although INFJs come across as very warm and friendly (occasionally described as “extroverted introverts”) they prefer socializing in small groups or one on one. Small talk is tiring (OH MY GOD EXHAUSTING) and boring (LITERALLY I’D RATHER BE ALONE THAN TALK TO STRANGERS ABOUT NOTHING). INFJs are eager to delve right in to deeper more personal conversations as they genuinely enjoy getting to know people. I’ve always loved the feeling of coming to “know” someone while I’ve despised idle small talk at parties and get togethers. It seems to be a strange paradigm but there is a genuinely different feel between a conversation that helps you know someone and a conversation about the surface level. When I find someone I feel comfortable sharing my innermost thoughts with I value them highly and aim to hold onto them for forever!
Feeling Misunderstood is common: Apparently only 1-2% of the population receives INFJ…I sort of find that statistic hard to believe BUT either way its an uncommon personality which can lead INFJs to feeling odd. Since INFJs are intensely self aware this realization of “oddness” always makes them feel misunderstood. Consequently INFJs have a difficult time opening up to most people they encounter, but the good news is when an INFJ finds someone he/she can open up to the INFJ is incredibly loyal to that person.
Rich Inner life: INFJs are analyzers as well as feelers which with their introverted personalities leads to very introspective/reflective minds. When an INFJ speaks he/she is usually only revealing the “tip of the iceberg”. I have the tendency to assume everyone else is only revealing a portion of their feelings or opinions as well which causes my over analyzing anxiety to occasionally spiral out of control.
Takes Conflict very personally, emphasizes expressing emotions: With a keen ability to empathize with others INFJs are usually sensitive and receptive to sharing feelings but can become closed off to criticism. I need a lot of time to process external conflict. After a discussion, talk or fight I need time to turn inwards and analyze it. Likewise I can’t really handle discussing Ebola, or dying puppies or hurt children at the dinner table. I internalize even distant news and I prefer to have alone time to really process my thoughts and emotions on these matters.
And they generally write much more eloquently than they speak: I like to think I can articulate my thoughts fairly eloquently when it comes to written communication (and while I’m bragging the GRE and every other standardized test told me I could). However when it comes to speaking I fumble and have a difficult time relaying my thoughts precisely (perhaps a reason why I’m able to connect with so many of you lovelies but have a difficult time forming connections in person).
Great value is placed on having things orderly and systematic: Which I suppose explains my intense need to schedule every moment of my life and arrive at least twenty minutes early to work every day.
Yet there is always disarray within their orderliness: Though I prefer to refer to this as “organized chaos”.
Strengths: Great listeners, very empathetic, masters of metaphor, entranced by ideas, committed to their own ideals, complex and deep, encouraging, and future oriented.
Weaknesses: Loyalty to a fault, difficult to get to know, easily hurt (sensitive), intense and tightly wound, not good with money, difficulty leaving bad relationships, stubborn!
Woah, to say I identify with these statements is an understatement. I never thought a personality test could describe me so accurately! Gen was an ISFP and my Gatsby boy was ESTJ. Have you taken the Myers Briggs personality test? What were your results? How well do you think your letters describe you?