One of the traits I get complimented on most on my blog is my authenticity. When I write, I write from my heart. For as long as I can remember writing has been a source of emotional expression for me, I write the way I feel, I write to clear my mind of all the good, bad and messy emotions that swirl through my head each day. My words come directly from the depths of my heart, and I don’t know how else to write.
However I am fully aware that for some, blogging is a different sort of creative outlet. While I use written word to convey my emotions others use fashion, visual arts, dance or something separate altogether. Not all blogs are writing intensive, not all blogs are personal feeling intensive (I just like to talk about feelings okay?!) but I do think all blogs can benefit from a touch of vulnerability and authenticity. I find raw uninhibited writing refreshing, even when it comes to posts about fashion or make up or food! I am drawn to an author that makes me feel like I am talking to a friend, like I am peeking into a portion of their life that maybe not everyone gets to see. I want to feel like the words I am taking time out of my day to read aren’t forced or fake, they can be silly, they can be sad, they can be poking fun of Taylor Swift (really) but I want them to be real!
I’m nowhere near a blogging genius. I never post at the same time, I can’t manage to create a blog schedule, and despite proof reading each post is riddled with spelling and grammar errors. Continually when asked what advice I have for new bloggers/other girls hoping to start their own blogs I emphasize authenticity and vulnerability. I used to write fluff. I only wrote about the parts of my life I would feel comfortable talking with my Grandma about over brunch, the result was boring writing (no matter how much flair or voice I attempted to throw in). I wasn’t being vulnerable, I felt safe but unsurprisingly also unfulfilled by my writing. Slowly, as I grew more into my own voice, my own writing style and recognized my own purpose for writing I started to allow my blog to become a place of vulnerability.
It’s funny because members of my family have mentioned that I am a “private” person. They ask me why I don’t talk about my problems, or share my life struggles and I find it incredibly ironic because I view myself as one of the most open and public people I know! I wear my heart on my sleeve, I communicate all of my feelings, I throw myself out there…it just isn’t aloud. I throw it all out there with writing. I can’t count the number of posts on this blog I have been terrified to publish. I worry about offending others, I worry about seeming weak or bitchy or lonely or mean, I worry about who I should and shouldn’t mention on my blog. I’m an overanalyzer so any worry you can imagine…I’m worrying about it! However, I push myself to approach the topics that scare me (no not the current Ukraine situation or UFOs or serial killers). Often times I have found that the words that I cannot bring myself to say aloud flow easily from my fingertips, and despite the hesitance I feel when it comes to clicking on that little blue “publish” button in the end the thrill of vulnerability is it worth it. More often than not I share pieces of my heart that allow me to connect with other bloggers/readers. I cherish these connections, over issues I might have difficulty speaking about out loud, far more than I cherish the random “Sounds like a great weekend” comments (not to say I don’t appreciate those too).
What’s my point here?! I love to see you in your writing even if it’s just an honest description of how the perfect hat aides your confidence or those little macarons you instagrammed brightened up your bad day. When you share your heart people respond and that’s my ultimate blogging (and writing) advice. This above all to thine own self be true!