I don’t usually like to just straight up copy post ideas from other blog’s, however, every so often I am so inspired by another blogger that I simply can’t help myself. So today, I’m being a copycat. Carly at The College Prepster recently shared her “non negotiables”, that is elements of your life that are SO important to you that when everything else fades away you will not compromise one.
1) Space to Express Myself. First and foremost I need an outlet for creative expression. I am an incredibly emotional person and I need an “outlet” for my fears, heartache, dreams and successes. Writing has always been my creative outlet of choice but if perhaps the winds change direction I know I will be okay as long as I am able to express myself in some sort of creative setting (just not painting because I’m awful)!
2) Friends (and family) First. I have never been super social, or the type of person who has lots of friends, but the few friendships I have are incredibly important to me. I am by no means perfect but I try to a thoughtful friend, a considerate friend and a supportive friend. I don’t want to be the girl who ditches her friends for a guy. I don’t want to be the friend that expects the world from her friends but isn’t willing to give the same love and sacrifice in return. I am more loyal when it comes to friendships than romantic relationships, I am willing to put in the time and effort to make my relationships work and I hope to always be this way.
3) Progress. I’ve mentioned this before but I am a goal and task oriented person. I am a little too in love with my planner and nothing makes me feel quite as satisfied as productivity. I
want to need to constantly push myself to do and become more than I am. I become so stir crazy and uneasy when I am not working towards a goal, whether it is to be in the best shape of my life, find an amazing internship or learn a new skill, I am fulfilled through challenging myself and personal growth.
4) Honesty. Truth is a pretty basic value, however we can’t control whether others are truthful with us for the most part. Yet, we can control if we are truthful with others and most importantly (I think) truthful with ourselves. There are times in life when it is easier to live a lie, to hide icky feelings like anger or sadness, to pretend something or someone is making you happy when in actuality it isn’t. In the end I need to stay true to my heart (and brain) to be at a place that feels “right”.
5) Kindness to the Core.I sometimes worry that I let the world get the best of me. There are days I snap too easily, I forget to say “thank you” or I just think mean thoughts. I want to always be kind, if not in every situation (certainly impossible) as a whole as a person. Genuine kindness from someone whom you can do nothing for is such a breath of fresh air in a world in which everyone is hoping to get ahead or “climb” their way to the top.
6) Never Stop Falling in Love. Life has so many beautiful, perfect moments, and I don’t just mean your wedding day, graduation or a big promotion. I’m talking about when you fall asleep laughing and sharing secrets next to your best friend, when the barista at Starbucks remembers your order and asks how your job interview went, when your dog wags her tail frantically as you walk in the front door (EVERY.SINGLE.DAY), when you wake up to sun shining through your window and have the pleasure of spending the day laying in the grass and admiring the contrast between the leaves on the trees and the blue of the sky. These moments are the beautiful moments that make life so magical. Without falling in love with these small things I think it is too easy to get up in the “hustle and bustle” of life and forget to be happy.
7) Forget Destiny. I don’t believe in fate, or in destiny. I believe in passion, I believe in ambition, and I believe in working hard. I would never claim that there aren’t plenty of socioeconomic factors that affect where a person ends up in life but I don’t believe there is a path we are supposed to lead or a life that will just “happen”. I always want to be courageous and driven enough to take the steps towards creating the life I want rather than allowing life to just “happen” to me.
When it boils down to it what are your “non negotiables”? Who do you hope to be and what do you hope to value when everything else is stripped away?