Queen LC sums it up wraps it and places a pretty pink package on the truth once again. Does anyone else ever wish Lauren was their best friend? That was a ridiculous question…of course you do, and if you don’t, well, you should probably just go watch some reruns of The Hills until you change your mind. I just used an Amazon gift card to order Lauren’s “Style” and “Beauty” books for my coffee table book collection, and honestly those pretty packages waiting in my mailbox in Seattle are the only reasons I can bare to think about leaving beautiful Napa Valley.
I’m getting distracted though. Has anyone else noticed how stupid boys are?! Yes, I’m 21 years old, but I can promise you I’m going to sound like a dramatic 15 year old for the duration of this post, so you really do have permission to leave and watch reruns of The Hills if that’s more you’re style, I’m not even kidding. As we all know I’m happily in a relationship. Jefferson is sitting 20 feet away from me tapping away on his little keyboard right now looking cute as can be, and I just love him. I mean it 110%, he puts up with SO much from me, it is unbelievable.
But, that doesn’t stop me from getting thrown for a loop when out of the blue, every single one of the guys I have ever dated all text me on one night. We broke up for a reason, and I have NO desire to be back together with any of them, but regardless, when you date someone they become a big part of your life, even when they are no longer in it. I’ve always been the sort of girl who is (for lack of a less cliche phrase) is “in it for the long haul”. I only date guys seriously, and even if it doesn’t end up being a long term relationship, it takes me a long time to completely “get over someone”.
The people we date affect us in a BIG way. I essentially “grew up” with my high school boyfriend, it was such an impressionable point in my life, it would be a complete lie to say he didn’t help shape who I am today. So it is always difficult for me to comprehend how I am supposed to feel once the relationships end. At one point those relationships meant the world to me, and although it is far from the truth now, I can’t help but feel a mixture of tenderness and annoyance towards the whole situation.
“People Change. Feelings Change. It doesn’t mean that the love once shared wasn’t true and real. It simple means that sometimes when people grow, they grow apart.”-500 Days of Summer
So how are you supposed to react? On one hand I like the idea of staying friends and something as simple as a text on New Years Eve is a nice gesture and a great way of saying “Hey, we’re on good terms, I hope for the best for you”. BUT on the other hand I still let my inner 15 year old run wild in my brain a little too often and I can’t help but think “This is so not the way I need to be starting my new year”.
I guess the whole purpose of dumping all of my emotions on the internet for the world to critique is just for a bit of feedback. I think everyone handles past relationships differently (which is TOTALLY necessary, obviously) but I’d like to hear how others manage. Do you remain friends? If so how do you keep a guy from getting the wrong idea? Or are you one of those people who avoids their ex at all costs? Of course I have my own ideas about what is appropriate/inappropriate when it comes to past relationships BUT I’m open minded about the whole situation.
I think the most important thing, when it comes to old relationships is maintaining truthful and open communication with your new/current significant other. It can be a sensitive topic! From the very beginning Jeff and I talked about not doing something you would be uncomfortable if the other person did, but it’s hard! Sometimes you don’t realize how a situation may make you feel until it’s too late and you are uncomfortable! It’s also easy to become overly jealous unnecessarily which, from my experience, is never beneficial in the long run.
Spill your thoughts sleepover style!
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