As a college student it makes since that my primary goal is academics. I am DETERMINED to have a 4.0 gpa this quarter for no other reason other than the fact that I have never had a 4.0 before…close but never quite there. This goal extends beyond grades, it means putting school before work (I struggled with this last year) and before fun (even vacations…unfortunately). As a result I hope to build actual relationships with my professors (you can just start calling me “teacher’s pet”) and consequently build some potential grad school references.
Smart Spending…this is a goal I struggle with because it isn’t exactly a “fun goal”. I’m great at adding things into my life (yoga, library time, walking the dog, babysitting, etc.) but not so great at cutting anything out (morning trips to Starbucks, splurging on cute new sweaters, concerts, decorations for the apartment, etc). Well it’s a problem. It isn’t really anymore of a problem now than it has been in the past but I’ve finally admitted to myself that I need to do something about it. I’ve been much better with my clothing addiction but my goal is to eliminate random splurges, splurges that don’t make me happy in the long run and don’t really serve a purpose in the short run either. Eating out is a primary example of a random splurge, while I can excuse eating out for special occasions such as a friend’s birthday, I can’t excuse it for the all too common occasion of “Jeff and I are both too lazy and tired to cook”. This goal is going to be really hard for me you guys (I’m an emotional shopper) so please send me your good vibes!
Show “Proofs” of Love
This goal stems from a book I read in the Spring. The Happiness Project is a fabulous book and I highly recommend it, for multiple reasons, but one of the concepts the author stressed is “There’s no such thing as love, only proofs of love”. The idea of “proofs of love” struck me and really made me think. Despite how much we know in our own minds and hearts that we love someone this “love” doesn’t really exist to anyone but ourselves without physical proof. My goal is to show the people I care about them that I care. I want to send letters, I want to cherish quality time with people, I want to remember to say thank you, and to ask follow up questions when important things are going on in my friends’ lives. It isn’t all about gifts or tangible objects, it’s about stepping outside of “myself” and really being there for other people.
Learn to say “NO”
Is there anyway I can double underline this goal and circle it and highlight it with neon pink?! At first glance “learn to say no” seems as if I’m teaching a lesson on drugs and alcohol to middle schoolers…no, although that would be a charitable cause and a valuable lesson for some. I am the queen of over committing and consequently this reign comes with a plethora of other fun traits such as high stress, anxiety, flakiness (socially, not literally) and all around bad feelings. I’m not a fan. I need to recognize that I simple DO NOT have time for everything and that doesn’t make me a bad person or a mean person, it simply makes me a real person.
If I were to make this goal in class in high school I would definitely loose points on the assignment as it is neither “specific” or “measurable” but since this is my blog and I make the rules I’m going to let it slide. I’m a SENIOR in college this year, meaning I am one step closer to becoming a real live grown up, meaning I really should start brainstorming for the future. Please note that I said “brainstorming” instead of “planning” because this is CRITICAL. I don’t want to lock myself down, I want to let myself daydream for a little while and entertain several ideas for the future as I have been known to over plan to the point where it becomes no longer helpful. I want to look into and research several ideas I am interested in and give myself time to adequately prepare for any of them. This goal could probably win an award for the most vague idea of the century but it somehow seems right to me so…whatever.
Have you created any goals for yourself this fall? I like to make small goals over the course of the year rather than HUGE goals in January, plus the start of the year always feels like September to me even though it’s “technically” in January.