When I first started writing The Fairy Princess Diaries I was a 20 year old college student living in a new city. I had recently broken up with the high school boyfriend I’d dated for four years and tasted a bit of “college dating” before falling into another long term relationship. Since then, I’ve experienced quite a bit more in terms of dating, as writing is my outlet for all emotions, I shared a lot of my struggles and realizations along the way.
I by no means consider myself a dating expert but I do spend a lot of time thinking about and analyzing romantic relationships. I’ve made my fair share of mistakes and embarrassed myself a great deal. I have noticed that for whatever reason I don’t have the same filter others have when it comes to sharing their love lives on the internet. I’m pretty transparent about matters of the heart. Of course I understand why others would guard their own experiences in love but since I enjoy writing about dating, falling in love, heart break and moving on it only seems right that I should share.
When you’re in the throws of tumbling madly into love or experiencing the gut-wrenching pain of a breakup it can be cathartic to realize someone else feels (or has felt) the same way you are feeling now. Some of the feelings that come with love can feel isolating! Maybe you feel guilty burdening your friends with your breakup anymore or maybe you feel silly for giving your heart away so quickly-I know the feeling! The goal of my writing isn’t to solve all of your relationship woes (I’m afraid you’ll have to climb that mountain on your own) but rather to offer the voice of a virtual friend.
If you’re new START HERE with my relationship philosophy and brief dating history. Then feel free to click through the archives of everything I’ve ever written on dating (I solemnly swear to continue updating this post). You’ll notice some posts offer advice while others simply dabble in untangling and understanding my own feelings and experiences. I don’t claim to hold all the same beliefs I did in older posts (my blog has been around for over 4 years now and I should hope I’ve grown since age 20!). You may notice contradictions or evolution of beliefs and hopefully you’re able to forgive a few spelling errors and silly analogies.
I love receiving your comments and emails about dating, relationships and love more than anything. Please do not hesitate to reach out if you have a comment, feel a topic should be discussed further or just want someone to talk to (:
The Complete Dating & Relationships Archive:
I have done my best to split posts up into categories however many of the posts fit into multiple categories (ie. Dating around and long term relationships, etc). * designates a personal favorite
Dating Around & Online Dating
A silly look at what we WISH we could ask on a first date
My experience using Tinder and what I learned from it
Dating an Extrovert when you’re an Introvert
Can you have both?
Long Term Relationships
Because I think therapy can be great even if you aren’t having MAJOR relationship issues
Weddings & Marriage
The story of my toxic relationship
A PSA that victims of abuse don’t always fit the stereotype we imagine
Why the abused are not always weak
When you’ve lost the ability to believe in love
Why spotting villains in fairytales is a lot easier than spotting the bad guys in real life
This post is published on Her Campus rather than my blog but I think it is important to share nonetheless (it’s still written by me, of course)
My most popular dating post to date
Just for Laughs
A comical look at the horror that is dating
An awkward girl’s guide to flirting
My Personal Love Life
I have not shared every post that ties to my own love life as I felt it was inappropriate to highlight posts that share too many details about my exes. Therefore this section highlights my current relationship and our love story, which I think is more fun anyways (;
Cutesy Couple Photos by Melissa Shaw
Cutesy Couple Photos part II by Melissa Shaw
A tale of the first “I love you”
Dealing with a partner who works a whole lot
When you realize what you want is different than what you thought you wanted
The best gift someone can give is the ability to be yourself
An intimate look into my fall into love
What I want from love