Turning around a bad day can feel impossible. Personally, when life throws me sour lemon after sour lemon all within the span of 24 hours I find it difficult to make lemonade. Maintaining a positive attitude after a let down, argument, disappointing news or a break up is a skill that can take practice to perfect. In some cases (like a break up) it’s okay to admit defeat and pamper yourself a bit (hello ice cream and a bubble bath) but in most day to day struggles pulling yourself together & shaking it off is a more productive solution. We can’t call in sick and opt for Netflix in bed all day everytime we have a bad hair day right?!
Once I start feeling anxious it can be difficult to calm myself down. I can’t easily sit down with a book or with my favorite cup of tea and feel relaxed. A bad day calls for a distraction so I can calm down before I face an issue head on.
Disclaimer: The following suggestions work for me when I am experiencing minimal anxiety over day to day negative experiences not panic attacks or major life issues. I am not a mental health professional and I cannot promise these suggestions will work for you. It is important to reflect upon your own feelings and tendencies when you are upset and decide for yourself if my solutions are a good fit for you.
Leave your credit card behind and head to your favorite shopping center, the goal here is to look and burn off some of that nervous energy not to buy. I head to shops that feel pretty, calming and inspiring, some of my favorites include Anthropologie, card shops, Free People and most big department stores. Don’t limit yourself to my suggestions though, you can window shop anywhere that feels intriguing to you! If you prefer vintage stores, farmer’s markets or sporting stores those work too! The goal is to distract yourself mentally while giving yourself time to calm down and process why you’re upset. If I’m window shopping because I’m upset I like to put my phone on silent and lock it away in my purse. Time to browse quietly without social media, texting or phone calls is a great way to restore a sense of mental calm when I am overwhelmed.
Wouldn’t it be great if you could check into the closest spa and spend the day pampering yourself every time life doesn’t go your way? Most of us don’t have the luxury of a full fledged spa day but that doesn’t mean you can’t treat yourself like a goddess. Of course a massage is a great way to destress but even a short massage can be expensive. For an affordable way to destress and decompress opt for a manicure, pedicure or if it’s been a really bad day a combo of both! You can catch up on celebrity gossip, chat with the nail tech or close your eyes and retreat on your own mini vacation.
Depending on the source and level of stress you’re experiencing you may be one workout away from a good mood! It doesn’t matter how you workout it just matters that you choose something that works for you. Grab a friend and go for a walk, run intervals on the treadmill, sign up for a kickboxing class or get your downward dog on at a local yoga studio. When I’m having a bad day slothing around my apartment leads me to dwelling in my bad mood. Exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy and happy people don’t shoot their husbands (or lay in bed listening to sad Taylor Swift songs for hours on end).
Talk it Out
Call your mom, your bestie or your sister to rehash the details of your bad day. Talking through your problems can help you look at the issue with a new perspective or it can give you the closure you need to let an issue go. If you find yourself consistently craving someone to talk to but don’t feel comfortable talking to a friend or family member (or need additional support) I highly suggest trying therapy. You may only attend for a session or two but talking to an unbiased professional can help you work through issues in a healthy manner.
Channel your Creativity
Perhaps the only “bright side” of a bad day tends to be an increase in creativity. Channel your bad energy into a project that uses your creativity. Paint pottery, create an inspirational bulletin board, write a short story…whatever inspires you creatively dive in head first! Though no one likes being angry or sad there’s no arguing that some of the best art stems from negative emotions. Even if you aren’t the next Van Gogh or you never share your artistic masterpiece with a single soul it can be therapeutic to create.
When you have a bad day how do you like to relax? Do you have a remedy you turn to at the end of a bad day?
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